Anyone who has ever been in a relationship has gone through the "talking" phase. I always defined this as the pre-dating stage where you are simply getting to know the other person better and determining if you would be compatible. But lately, the definition seems to becoming a blur. A girl friend of mine is going through the same thing I went through two years ago. Her boyfriend broke up with her after a year but right now they are "talking" again. Talking? But if you dated the person for a year, why do you need to "talk" to them? Don't you know them enough already? My ex-boyfriend and I had known each other since elementary school, yet when we broke up, we also went through that "talking" stage again.
She and I were talking about this tonight and we are both confused as to what it really means. It seems like such high school vocabulary and we are nearing the end of our sophmore year in college. We don't want to play high school games anymore. The older I get, the more this "talking" doesn't mean "I want to get to know you before I date you." It sounds more like "I want to keep you dangling, I want to throw some bait out there just to keep you around, but I don't want a commitment yet, I still want to look around." Now, I know this stage does not mean you are committed to the other person, but nobody likes being led on. Here are a couple of definitions courtesy of Urban Dictionary: "When two people are not exclusive with each other nor have established what they are as a couple, but have some sort of relationship."
"Talking is when you like a person, and they like you too, but you are free to mess around with other people and not have guilt."
This is what a friend defined "talking" as: "both people like each other but are not in an official dating relationship. when you are talking to someone, you would not go out on a date with someone else."
But this is a girl's definition. I would rather see it from a guy's point of view to better understand. Girls' opinions are also welcome. Please comment and let me know what you think.
Does "talking" = "seeing" / "getting to know each other"?
I think that in this time and age, we have made things more complicated - relationship-wise. There are all these new terms out there that seem to confuse a lot of people.
I mean, "talking"? Really now? You can't say that "talking" = "getting to know each other" if, like your friend's case, it's an ex cos you guys have dated each other and already 'know' each other from that dating experience. Maybe in these cases, it's like starting over and getting the thrill and rush of having a date every week or something.
Sorry, I'm just rambling on. My thoughts are everywhere!
To me, talking means....talking. You are talking to each other on a regular basis, maybe more than you would usually talk to someone who is just a friend, but there's no commitment or official relationship going on.
To me, what you describe as "talking" is "dating" - you're not an official couple, but there's obviously more than just friendship and you likely wouldn't go on a date with someone else. "Going out" means you're in a relationship and would call the other your SO or bf/gf.
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Does "talking" = "seeing" / "getting to know each other"?
I think that in this time and age, we have made things more complicated - relationship-wise. There are all these new terms out there that seem to confuse a lot of people.
I mean, "talking"? Really now? You can't say that "talking" = "getting to know each other" if, like your friend's case, it's an ex cos you guys have dated each other and already 'know' each other from that dating experience. Maybe in these cases, it's like starting over and getting the thrill and rush of having a date every week or something.
Sorry, I'm just rambling on. My thoughts are everywhere!
To me, talking means....talking. You are talking to each other on a regular basis, maybe more than you would usually talk to someone who is just a friend, but there's no commitment or official relationship going on.
To me, what you describe as "talking" is "dating" - you're not an official couple, but there's obviously more than just friendship and you likely wouldn't go on a date with someone else. "Going out" means you're in a relationship and would call the other your SO or bf/gf.